A Best-Selling
Book by
Lee Ismoire

 BOOK DESCRIPTION

This book is my story as a mother and a grandmother faced with my son and daughter-in-law’s decision to go “poly.” To those unfamiliar with the term, going “poly” or polyamorous, means you claim the right to have multiple lovers. Polyamory, unlike polygamy, requires no legal papers.
     I had never heard the word before 2018. Even if I had, it was largely fringe and only in passing. That year, life changed as Polyamory swept into our lives like a tornado, exploding everything in its path: our concept of family, monogamy, faith in God, and the tradition of marriage.
     This book is about my emotional and spiritual struggle as I witnessed the distress and destruction of my son and grandchildren’s happiness as my daughter-in-law fully liberated herself sexually, physically, and emotionally in her newly elected poly lifestyle.
     My story is cluttered with accounts of heartbreak, private shame, love gone wrong, disappointment, discontent, sexual promiscuity, arrogance, selfishness, and the painful collateral damage to children when a marriage breaks down. Above all, my story is about seeking and ultimately, finding a loving, compassionate God who powerfully shields me and embalms me with His supernatural peace and yes, joy. Deep in my heart and soul, I know He has the whole world in His hands. I know that all things indeed work for good for those who love God.
     I write this book for Christians caught in this same plight. Please hold fast to God’s promise: “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31.
      write this book for anyone excited or thinking about trying polyamory. Please read my book as an apologetics on Polyamory exploring:

•  Its philosophy, its practice, its lexicon

•  Its history and practice among Bible figures

•  What the Bible says about Polyamory

•  Statistics on polyamory as a lifestyle choice in the United States

•  Its effects on the children in such unions

•  The Supreme Court gay marriage ruling

     More significantly, I write this book about my family. My family, before my daughter-in-law went poly, was happy. We had joy in our hearts, we loved each other, cared for each other, and often chose to overlook minor disagreements as we developed a life of unity and peace. We had faith in God, trusted Him when times got hard, and somehow, we managed to always come up on top of the troubles that life sprung on us.
     Everything changed when our daughter-in-law went “poly” six years ago. A polyamorous lifestyle has no place for God or for faith. It is antithetical to the Christian life and it upends every principle and commandment in the Bible. God and Polyamory cannot co-exist. Our family was destroyed as we radically disagreed on how we should lead our lives and raise our children.
     This journey is intimate as it crisscrosses over six long years during which we clashed on lifestyle choices, religious values, etiquette, discipline and, yes, personalities. Polyamory is like cancer. It metastasizes, infects, poisons, and destroys.
     Let this book ring a warning bell to everyone, Christian or non-believer, that being polyamorous destroys your family, and your children, after first destroying your most cherished spousal relationships.
     This book is also about redemption, grace, blessings, and strength which only God can provide when we lose everything precious and beloved by us. God is always there in the midst of the fire, the destruction, the pain, and the heartbreak. He lives and He embraces and He always heals. Only He can make us whole again when our lives are fractured apart. When all hope seems lost, He breathes hope, peace, healing, and joy into our very souls.

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WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK

     This book began in a spirit of fear, grief, despair and worry. I was weighed down with concern for my son and my grandchildren. As mothers and grandmothers, we are often uplifted, and sometimes weighed down because of the love we have for our children and grandchildren. Sometimes, we cheer them on, inspired by their choices in life. Sometimes, we want to yell our lungs out to warn them of danger.

     Very young children are like sponges. They soak up the world completely. They have no filter, just vulnerable innocence. They have no understanding of what is good and what is evil. Their fragile minds and hearts are receptive and malleable.The bible says: “Train your child in the way he should go. And even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

     Our world today is a fearless world. It is fearlessly tossing out the old. The old being traditional ideas of being faithful to one’s spouse, frowning on adultery and being dedicated to raising our children in a stable and loving environment. In tossing out the old, our fearless new culture  embraces unfettered new concepts such as polyamory, polycules, swinging, LGBTQ pride.

     Up till 2018, I lived in a Christian bubble. What do I mean? The world I lived in was governed by not just the rule of law but the rule of God. I had retired early from my corporate executive position and was so proud of my children and their successes in life. Our two children were finding their way in life, in their careers and building up their families. In 2018, our son was 34 and our daughter was 26. Both shared our Christian faith. We all believed in being honest, working hard,  and holding fast to Christian principles. Yes, we each struggled with our own issues but we shared a bedrock of fundamental rules of right versus wrong.

     Everything changed in 2018 when our son *Xavier’s wife *Samantha, then 36, announced she was “polyamorous” and had been having an ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamous) relationship with *Terry, 23, for many months. Xavier continued to be monogamous but had painfully and very reluctantly accepted Samantha’s decision. 

     This book is not just about the participants in polyamory but also about the victims of polyamory. When an individual goes polyamory, there is tremendous upheaval, not just in the romantic relationship  but also within the entire family, especially when there are very young children involved. Clearly, the primary impact is on the consensual and/or consensual or non-consensual partners, but the impact on the children is equally seismic. In our family, there was a very young little girl, aged 4, our granddaughter Abby.* And later, within the year, as the polycule grew, Samantha was pregnant and delivered an infant boy Zach* whose paternity has never been disclosed.

     Being extremely close to my son and his family, we were quite traumatically immersed in this highly experimental social experiment called “Polyamory.” It was both a privilege as we loved our family dearly, but also a curse, as we have been horrified and aggrieved by the events which unfolded between 2018 and today.

     We view both Abby and Zach as victims. We initially viewed Xavier as a victim, before he was radicalized by Samantha, and assumed leadership of their polycule. Victims are created by circumstances out of their control and our grandchildren are clearly victims.

     Polyamory is a radical upheaval and overthrowing of the traditional and beloved American family. Polyamory despises and wishes to dispose of Christian faith and biblical values.

     Over the past six years, our son’s family has morphed into a full-scale polycule with 3 proud poly partners and two children, now aged 5 and 10. Each of the past six years has been painful as reel life became real life. My husband and I were persecuted for our Christian faith within two years of the establishment of the polycule. We were threatened that if we “talked about God” to our grandchildren, we would never get to see them again. Meanwhile, we had to stay silent as our grandchildren were immersed in the polyamory lifestyle, brought to Pride festivals with naked bicyclists, and introduced to scores of new polyamorous and swinger friends.

     When faced with circumstances we cannot control, we are initially bewildered and afraid. Over time, we have learnt to surrender our fears and our heartaches to God. It takes many, many heartbreaking and fearful days, months and years to reach this place of trust in God. As we turned to Him again and again, deep in our despair, and struggling with our anxieties and hopelessness, we began to shed the shackles of depression. We can testify to the wonderful power of God that transforms us into victors, not victims.

      My story is not an exercise in sensationalism. It is powerful testimony of how sexual sin destroyed and continues to destroy my son’s beautiful family. I am recording how immorality destroys hope and happiness. More importantly, I need people to know that Polyamory corrupts and hurts the children. What is frightening is how prevalent polyamory is today in America.

     My mission is to provide my fellow Christians a roadmap of what can and will go wrong when we decide to abandon every principle of Godly living which God provides us in Scriptures. More importantly, we have a God who never forsakes us in our hour of need.  He stands like a mighty Fortress, our Rock, our Redeemer, our Savior and we never need fear.  We stand victorious always because we believe.